Not Approachable? Moi??

I'm not claiming to be a supermodel, but I do consider myself attractive, but "unapproachable" attractive, no way. I recently had a conversation with someone I knew when I was younger who told me he had a huge crush on me, but was scared to ask me out. Again, not tooting my own horn, but I have heard this before. I have gone out on dates with guys who didn't ask for a second date and when I asked friends (who know the guys) about it, I am told that they didn't think I'd be into him, so why pursue it.

So I need to question myself, am I intimidating? If I could post pictures of the guys I have been serious about you could see that I don't go for any particular type (although I do always dream of the tall dark and handsome). All I ever wanted was a nice guy, I've gone out with short, fat, bald, tall, skinny, etc... I've run the gamut... to me attraction has always been more than looks.

Years ago I dated someone who was considered (and probably still is) one of the best looking guys out there, and guess what - I didn't want to pursue it. We didn't have much in common and conversation seriously lagged. Was I afraid to approach him? Did I feel he was just too good looking for me? No way. Sure I have self esteem issues but it always had more to do with my financial issues (side note: I refused to even think about dating seriously until I was out of school and able to support myself). Once I resolved those issues I was ready, willing and able (or so I'd like to think).

So what about me is so unapproachable? To the men out there, I know it's hard to take a chance and put yourself out there, but what's the worst that can happen? I say no? What if I say yes? ... I know I can approach men too, and trust me I do, and I have been rejected so I do know how it feels, but I still feel it's always worth a shot.