What to do.....

So in light of my last few dating failures I of course dredge up the past - wondering which ship may have sailed too soon. So, me being the nostalgic person that I am, contacted an ex. As soon as I sent that email I regretted it. I have always firmly believed that you break up with people for a reason and those issues don't miraculously disappear - yes sometimes things can be resolved but when it is a make or break issue - they rarely ever do. A major reason I stopped seeing this guy was because he didn't want more kids (he is divorced with a few). That right there is a make or break for me. So, why did I contact him? I know nothing will change and I don't really want to have to CONVINCE someone to have a child with me.

I contacted him because before all the "yucky" stuff got in the way we were great. I had that stupid smile on my face all of the time. I couldn't wait to see him - I would even take off of work to surprise him and we just had fun together. I want that fun again. I want that stupid smile again. I wholly regret contacting him because there is no way to get that back - too much water under the bridge but for a moment I just needed to touch base.

So here are my new rules:

1. Don't go out with anyone I wouldn't have dated in my 20's.

2. Don't go out after 12 am.

3. If he doesn't have a car (unless he lives in the City) don't go.

4. Don't email exes w/o it sitting in my draft box for 24 hours.

5. Don't stay on the phone with a potential date for more than 5 minutes (this will probably be the hardest for me!)

6. I will no longer be willing to go out with just anyone - I will thank people for thinking of me, but if the only reason you're setting us up is because we are both single - forget it.

7. I will inquire about potential dates from my friends (had I actually asked a friend about a recent one, I wouldn't have wasted my time).

I'm sure I'll have more...